Women Should Sing More About Female Masturbation!

Female masturbation is like a secret, long kept to keep us women sane. Because while we might not talk about it, you can be sure we’re totally doing it. When you’re not there, we’re doing it. When you’re not looking, we’re doing it. When you’re out with your mates, we’re doing it. There’s a reason why the vibrator and dildo sales are soaring. Companies like LELO aren’t sustaining themselves for nothing. Macy Gray even wrote a damn song about her vibrator:

But then again, she isn’t the only one. A whole bunch of songs about female masturbation have been happening, and I for one welcome this with open arms. For too long female masturbation has been the product of some sort of male fantasy. Men masturbate because it’s Tuesday, or they have five minutes to spare and they’re bored, or “why the hell not?” aka it’s just something men do. However when women masturbate, we do in that super sexy, inviting way – like what you see in porn. Beckoning, teasing, slowly rubbing (or furiously rubbing), eyes always looking at the man, as if his pleasure of watching us ‘pleasure ourselves’ is more important than our actual pleasure. Or we light candles, sit back, and make a ‘day out of it’ or at least that’s what I’ve been told from television and movies. Who the hell has time for candles?

I mean women can knock one out in less than five minutes too, you know. And I’ve tried masturbating like they do in porn; it pleased no one… least of all me. So when I hear St. Vincent sing about her ordinary day in Birth in Reverse, “Oh what an ordinary day. Take out the garbage, masturbate,” I think, YES! This is how we do it.

Miley Cyrus sang about missing some boy in Adore You and yet the video that accompanied the song felt like something you would send your man, when you’re horny and definitely up for getting some. You can see her hand snaking down to presumably pleasure herself. It felt like a peek into some girl’s cheeky, private video and I loved it.

And of course we also have two biggest female pop stars in the business right now, Beyoncé and Nicki Minaj singing about ‘feeling themselves’ in their single appropriately titled, “Feeling myself”.

It might seem that these songs are overtly sexual, and yes they are, the difference being that the pleasure depicted here isn’t for the male eye. The shift is subtle and yet strong. The message is clear, female sexual pleasure can be self-serving but doesn’t always have to be. For too long it has existed only as a means to pleasure men, and that message is changing. We’re being shown that our pleasure matters, just as much as men’s pleasure matters.

It’s glorious and it needs to happen more. So yeah ladies, grab your vibrator, and get your freak on!

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