Role-play can be a sexy and creative way to spice up your sex life, but what happens when you find yourself in a role-play rut? We all know the clichéd roles – boss/secretary, nurse/patient, cop/perp – but when you’re looking for something fresh and exciting it might be time to look into different scenarios. Here are 10 new personas to try on for size.

Hired Escort

The hired escort scenario is a classic that plays on the power/sex dichotomy. One partner is the escort hired to pleasure the other for a scheduled amount of time. While this scenario can be used by role-play beginners due to its familiar nature, it can also be used by more experienced role-players by adding elements of realism.

Some suggestions to get you started:

• Meet in a hotel room to add realism
• Arrive and leave separately
• Combine this scenario with the hitchhiker scenario

Strangers

This role-play scenario can be done in a variety of different ways, though for it to work, both partners really have to get into the role. Change your name, your appearance, and your mannerisms to become someone your partner doesn’t recognize.

The only pre-planned element of this role-play scenario should be the time and location of your encounter. You might act as if you’ve been set up on a blind date, or strangers meeting for the first time by fate.

Are you married? If you want to make things more interesting, keep your ring on and act as if your husband or wife is a person you just may be willing to commit adultery with. This allows you to get the thrill of an affair without actually crossing any boundaries. The beauty of this scenario is that you can take it as far as you are comfortable with. The role-play can end when you leave the designated location, or stay in character up until the one-night stand. This scenario is good for spicing things up because it is so versatile. Each time you and your partner or spouse can pretend to be someone completely different, and either one of you can change personas or both! (Read about one woman’s sexy role-play in My Night With a Stranger.

Some suggestions to get you started:

• Meet in a bar lounge and offer to buy your partner a drink to start conversation
• Meet a sexy stranger in a club and dirty dance all night
• Hit the gym, where a sexy, sweaty stranger on the treadmill beside you catches your eye

Hitchhiker

For role-play enthusiasts, the hitchhiker scenario is an exciting and daring way to use role-play to shake things up. This scenario borrows from the stranger and ups the ante. Communication is key in carrying out this scenario, as you don’t want your spouse getting into a car that you’re not driving. You must ensure to pick a very specific time and location for pick up. Try to pick a location that you and your partner are familiar with. Once the hitchhiker is in the car, the rest is up to you.

Some suggestions to get you started:

• Your car broke down in the parking lot and you hitch a ride home
• You need a ride to the nearest town and a kind stranger says they are going the same way and will give you a lift
• On your way home you drive by a hitchhiker who looks like they could really use your help

Masked Intruder

Looking for something with a bit more edge? The masked intruder scenario plays on the taken-against-your-will fantasy, but takes it to the next level. Like the stranger and hitchhiker scenarios, this situation allows for a wide range of options. Whether you pretend your partner is a masked intruder, a kidnapper/hostage taker, or a robber, in this scenario one partner is aggressive while the other is submissive or fearful. Whichever partner is the intruder gets to make up his or her reason for breaking in, while the other partner gets to choose how aggressively they fight back.

Some suggestions to get you started:

• Have one partner get fully into character wearing all black and a mask
• The submissive partner might be conveniently in the shower or in the nude
• You might plan the scenario so that the submissive doesn’t know exactly when his or her partner is going to be breaking in to add an element of surprise

Sex Slave

This role-play scenario takes a page out of the BDSM book. Surrendering all control to your partner can be a thrilling way to explore new things in the bedroom. In this scenario, one partner is the sex slave who is completely submissive and at the command of their master. The partner in control may command their partner to speak or act in any way that they desire. Enacting the sex slave fantasy is exciting because the partner in control gets exactly what they want from their partner, thus it can be a good way to try new things without feeling awkward. As with trying any new type of role-play, be sure to first communicate with your partner what your safeword is going to be and what you are not comfortable doing under any circumstance.

Some suggestions to get you started:

• As the sex slave, only do what you are instructed to do by your partner and nothing more
• As the master, really take the reins and control your partner as you please

Role-play is a top sexual fantasy, for men and women alike. It’s great way to add some kinky fun to your love life, and maybe even try some things you wouldn’t dare do as “yourself.” Oh, and check out 5 Expert Tips for Getting Your Kink On for more hot ideas.

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By Symone Nelson at Kinkly.com