Whenever the influences of porn are mentioned, men are portrayed as subjugators of women who believe no means yes and if a woman puts up resistance, we’re only going to get more excited as this is clearly part of an elaborate foreplay preceding the act of coitus that ends with a money shot all over her face.

Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett is upset. She’s a freelance writer for The Guardian and co-founder and editor of The Vagenda blog. Her latest contribution to the online ether is a diatribe of accusations towards men based on conversations she’s had with young women.

The only remedy is sex education apparently, because porn and especially “online porn’s dominance is affecting sexual relationships and behavior in the real world… …Sexually active, bright, independent young women, doing things they don’t want to do in bed, and then crying about it afterwards.”

Now, strap yourself in! Yeah, you guy, because this next one is going to sting. Here’s why we need sex education, according to Cosslett: “We need sex education because (some) men are asking for anal sex on the first date,” among other equally ridiculous reasons.

If we’re going to have an honest conversation about sex, porn and expectations at the end of a date, then we need to be completely sincere. However, tossing a man’s opinions into matters of feminism is about as welcome as a suicide bomber on a crowded school bus.

Sex education is easy to demand, but where is all the vital information supposed to come from? Is this a parental responsibility or are kids supposed to listen to teachers who are so uncomfortable talking about it that they look ready to crawl out of their own skin?

Women rightly voice indignation over how they are portrayed in media. Apparently society expects you to be perfect in every aspect of your lives: perfect body, education, career… But rarely do we talk about the image of men: six pack abs, wealth, success…

How about we recognize that the line between gender roles is getting blurrier and this causes tension, and to some extent, frustration? I too have met women who’ve said they’re looking for a guy with a six-pack, massive cock and loads of money.

Porn, in my opinion, is a reflection of the confusion felt by men and women as a result of distorted gender images. Rather than pointing fingers at porn and men in particular, we should focus on understanding who we are outside of the bedroom.

Then let’s talk like adults about how we should educate kids.